Problems in Love Relationships - Part 4

It would be easier to start over with someone else

Some time has passed in the relationship and you've both built up lies. Some big ones but mostly small ones. They're not blatant lies, but mostly unspoken thoughts and feelings. The intentions behind the lies were to protect yourself and your partner from pain. But now, your problems seem overwhelming and you can't talk openly and honestly about them because you've already established a certain pattern of communication. It seems it would be considerably easier to just start fresh with a new partner. One where you could be yourself without fear.

Useful Questions:

* Is honesty in your love relationship ever a “wrong” move?
Why do you believe that? (Read more about how honesty effects relationships)

* Get clear on what you've lied about to your partner. What would happen if you shared what you learned? What is the worst that would happen? Are you capable of handling that? Why or why not?.

* Figure out what you're afraid would happen if you were honest with them about those issues.

* Talk to your partner about your concerns of being TOTALLY honest. Keep the focus on YOUR feelings and not their behavior.

* Muster up the courage to tell them what you've lied about. Repeat to yourself, "No matter what happens, I will be okay."